From Denny: Perception. It comes from the feelings in our hearts and the culture taught notions in our heads. We can acquire Stinkin' Thinkin' from our families or national culture too in the form of long held prejudices that create strife and wars.
But "What If?" we decided to sit down and spend time reflecting upon who we are at our core being? When we release ourselves from the Should Have, Could Have, Would Have expectations of society and family what would we discover about ourselves on the deepest level?