From Denny: Today I was thinking about a middle-aged friend who is getting married for her first time this month. Let's say it plain: the woman is a diva personality, excessively self-absorbed. She's musically talented beyond belief yet a bit emotionally wearing at times, yes, a high maintenance kitty. :)
As long as a person is not intentionally cruel, well, I've always had the heart - and the patience - for most difficult personalities: the divas. I've invested as long as seven to 12 years in each person to coax them into maturity. Why? Besides the fact I understand why they have the issues they do I also know they have the capacity to go out into the world to help others on a much larger scale once they do mature. Over the long term it can turn into a good investment for the world.
The reason for this woman's self-absorption is because she was severely abused, molested repeatedly, in her childhood - by her own mother. As a result, all her relationships have been difficult, understandably involving issues of trust. And did I mention her father was an enabler of the mother? That same mother went on to molest her grandchildren too. It's a sick situation from which none of the adult children have recovered after decades of trying to heal themselves by ignoring the spiritual element.
