Check out this mind food when you need to pick yourself back up from rejection.
From Denny: Rejection is one of the toughest situations people do to each other. It's inevitable. You don't get that job. You don't attract that person for romance. Even the family dog doesn't want to know you some days. Bad days happen and happen for a reason. Look at it this way. It sure makes those good times we experience that much sweeter because we have a stark comparison against which to measure it.
Like anything, Life gets easier if we take the time to reflect upon disappointments and rejection - but in a positive way. I was reminded recently of some people who rejected me when in college, though I accepted them wholeheartedly. Yet, all these years later it is just now these fellow women have realized they were being petty and insecure.
While I was sad at the time about what appeared to be rejection for no good reason it was these years later they revealed to me why they did what they did. Turns out it was jealousy, fear and insecurity. They had put me up on some imaginary inner plateau, assuming I was something I wasn't.
The short explanation is they really didn't have good people skills and could not "read" people well to properly assess my offer of friendship. Today they regret their rejection of the many good people in their lives, a pattern they found themselves repeating far too often. They now realize the source of their terrible unhappiness for so many years is because they rejected the good people capable of long term friendships in favor of the shallow mean-spirited people who later abandoned them to rejection.
I've always been blessed with an uncommon ability to see into people's hearts. I saw the best in them; I saw their talents long before they did. I also knew they had low self-esteem and the chances were high they would reject the friendship. I offered it anyway to give them the opportunity of choice and decision.
Lately, on the web, I've been running across many sites where people have been lamenting rejection, stuck as how to deal effectively with it. Their pain was palpable, weeping on the surface and interfering with living day to day. So, I sat down and thought a while about it and wrote a poem. There are also several favorite quotes listed about how famous people have learned how to rethink rejection and benefit from it.
Life's blows cannot break a person whose spirit is warmed at the fire of enthusiasm. - Norman Vincent Peale, Preacher and Author
I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. - Jimmy Dean, Actor, Singer and Businessman
I think that you have to believe in your destiny; that you will succeed, you will meet a lot of rejection and it is not always a straight path, there will be detours - so enjoy the view. - Michael York, actor
Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothings others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. - Don Miguel Ruiz, New Age Author
Life is a succession of lessons, which must be lived to be understood. - Ralph Waldo Emerson, Author, Poet and Philosopher
There's nothing like rejection to make you do an inventory of yourself. - James Lee Burke, American Author
Dear to us are those who love us... but dearer are those who reject us as unworthy, for they add another life; they build a heaven before us whereof we had not dreamed, and thereby supply to us new powers out of the recesses of the spirit, and urge us to new and unattempted performances. - Ralph Waldo Emerson, Author, Poet and Philosopher
True success is overcoming the fear of being unsuccessful. - Paul Sweeney, Author
An objection is not a rejection; it is simply a request for more information. - Bo Bennett, Businessman and Author
Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears. - Marcus Aurelius
Do not waste yourself in rejection; do not bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Even God has a sense of humor about how to handle repeated rejection. Take a look.
Poem From God
How many times have you lamented the experience of constant rejections in life?
How many times have you dreaded getting up in the morning to face more rejection?
Writers, artists, actors, sales and customer service people intimately know rejection.
So do the unemployed know rejection, especially those without jobs for months, years.
Do you ever sit down in an emotional puddle and roll in the misery of getting rejected?
“Who hasn’t?” would be a more accurate question. Everyone has visited the Pity Party.
People advise you to “Get over it!” but you can’t seem to pull yourself out of the dark pit.
Others tell you to quit being so sensitive but the hurt of rejection lingers with a stench.
You wonder to yourself how to deal effectively with the sting of repeated rejection?
It’s good to look at rejection from a completely different perspective: God’s.
How does the Creator of the Universe deal with repeated rejection? What’s His take?
God has a great sense of humor, for, after all, we are made in His Image, right?
One day I sat down to listen to what God had to say about dealing with rejection.
And God said, “Do you think I don’t know rejection? Every day I go to work.
“Half the people on this planet wake up refusing to have anything to do with Me.
“I go to work anyway. The song of Love calls to their hearts and I await their answer.”
Copyright 8 Oct 2010
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*** Check out this related post:
Inspiring Quotes About Dealing With Rejection - Some great advice from famous people about handling rejection.
Photo Credits - Flickr provides this new code that also links the photo back to the photographer's page when you click on the photo. Here are the page links too:
Discarded roses on the street photo by Todd Huffman @ flickr
The Deepest Pain - rejection words in the sand photo by juliejordanscott @ flickr
Heart in hand photo by __april @ flickr
Empty glass or full glass photo by Princess K8 @ flickr
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